Monday, July 09, 2012
Success as we feel
If I were to ask the meaning of success there would be as many explanations as people. It means different things to different people. It is money, fame and power for some whereas peace, tranquility, satisfaction with life for others. There is no one definition which truly captures the essence of this term. We need to find our own definitions and then live by it. It is very important to do this early in life.
In the book Alice in Wonderland by Lewis Caroll. In one of the chapters there is this conversation: “Which road should I take?” asked Alice on arriving at a fork in the road she was travelling on. “Where do you want to go?” replied the Cheshire Cat. “I do not care where” said Alice. “Then it does not matter, which road you take” said the Cheshire cat, slowly vanishing till only its smile remained.
It’s the same for most of us. You will always find yourself on crossroads where you will have to take one road to reach your destination. Which road you take will depend on where you want to reach.
I want you to understand that success cannot be defined by others or achieved as a standard. Success is a feeling and not a goal. You set your own benchmark and continuously raise this bar for your own satisfaction. Successful people don’t do different things, they do things differently. In bringing you up the only thought that has been the driving force is to make you an individual with an identity of your own. Listen to everyone but do your own thing. Make your own mistakes. Learn from both success and failures. Don’t dwell on why some things happened to you only. Just experience it for what they were and learn from them because it’s our experiences which make us what we are. Never ever compare yourself with others because you don’t know what their journey has been to attain their visible success.