I
feel that very often in our everyday life we confuse things like knowledge,
skill, incident etc. with the word experience. For me experience is way beyond
these nouns. No particular incident or encounter or familiarity can truly
capture the essence of this word. It is more than just the total of its parts. All
that we have in life, once pushed to the past tense becomes experience for us. Experiencing experience in the present tense is difficult but not impossible. To add to the
twist we have relevant and irrelevant experiences. Even after all these years I have failed to
understand the relevance of irrelevant experience. I went, I saw and I
experienced. I did not go, I did not see and I did not experience. Will the
second scenario construe to be irrelevant experience?
Over
the years in all that I have read or seen or heard or felt or tasted, one fact is
crystal clear - all the experiences are relevant. We are much more ‘relevant’ than
the sum total of all our experiences taken together. Experiences are never good
or bad. It’s the result that can be slotted into the different categories. We
are what we are because of what we have experienced so far. The result of the
experiences shapes us. The product that is me today is a consequence of all my
deeds; thoughts; actions etc. The person I am today is the conclusion of
everything that has happened or not happened in my life till now. If I am
relevant then how can my experiences be irrelevant?
Having
relevant experience supposedly equips us to take decisions or be proclaimed as
being a person with rich experience. I believe that any experience to be termed
rich must have a far reaching influence and cannot be bereft of feelings or
emotions. Being experienced or being responsible is not just about making
decisions. It’s about sticking to the decisions you have made.
I
would only call a person experienced if s/he has the guts to stick or live
through the decisions one has taken. Acceptance is true experience. You can
only do so when you know deep down that no decision is bad or wrong decision.
The consequences may be good or bad or as per our instinct on which we based
the decision or otherwise. This consequence should never stop us from taking
decisions. The end should never influence the means. Decisions can never be dependent on anxiety or the possibility of what might happen or not happen. They have to be taken, so take it.
When we stop taking
decisions, we stop thinking. Running away from being decisive is also a
decision. Not taking decisions will stop one from growing and eventually turning
out to be the person one could have been. If we respect our decisions, so will others. This thought reminds me of a prayer from an old hindi classic – "हम को मन की शक्ति देना मन विजय करें।। दूसरों की जय से पहले ख़ुद को जय करें।।"
(Hum ko mann ki shakti dena, mann vijay karein. Doosron ki jai se pehle khud ko jai karein)
Every
cloud has a silver lining. So why hesitate? Gather inputs from all but take
your own decisions. Gut feeling is a decision too.
Decide
about this.
Well said Shalu - experience is every moment that we live - every breath we take is an experience in itself - depends how closely you relate to it and make it worthwhile... decisions come from experiences in life - if we respect our own decisions and have the guts to live it respectfully and wholeheartedly, there is least possibility of regrets and being mistaken .. Value life, experiences and decisions!
ReplyDeleteI agree Alka. I believe that our children should be left to take their own decisions once they come of age...you never become responsible if you stop taking decisions...
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