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I would say that how much is too much can be explained with the help of difference between proactive guidance and control. I personally feel that there is a very fine line dividing the two especially in our minds. On most occasions when we think that we are guiding or helping, others perceive it as control. When we feel we are doing so much for others, they feel what was the need? Not really our problem. It is their problem. Or am I missing the link somewhere? I cannot say with authority. Let’s see if we are able to understand this ‘sticky situation.’ I have tested all my personal relationships for this hypothesis. Not surprisingly the answers have been very similar. As a mother when one anticipates needs and proactively satisfies them, the child feels   "why did you do it."   As a spouse one takes steps to ease out the problems for the partner, the partner feels   "what was the need."   As a family member one makes all attempts at creating an atmosphere where